Posted on March 10th, 2023.

All your parenting problems are caused by you, your children or other people (or society). That’s a great deal to take into account. The most challenging thing you can do is to attempt to change your children or other people before you change yourself.

It’s smart to first change those things that will give you an immediate result ... You!

If you can Stop Creating Problems your life will immediately improve. You will have fewer problems to solve.

My doctor tells me that the first things you should diagnose for, are those things that are curable. Once you fix those then you can diagnose for things that might be curable. This is how he gets people healthy. He doesn’t just run all the diagnostic tests available. In parenting we too look for problems that are fixable.

Every Problem You Don’t Create ... Is A Problem You Don’t Have To Solve.

When you stop creating a problem the problem vanishes altogether.

To stop creating problems requires no cooperation from anyone else and instantly alleviates the situation. There are twelve smaller parent-made problems that appear in many families. You may not have all of them in your family but solving the ones you do have will improve your family immensely.

If you attempt to change your children or your environment while you’re still creating problems you’ll find that the problems either keep returning or morph into “new” problems. Either way you lose.

Ask yourself, “How am I contributing to this problem?” Then by changing what you’re doing, you can alleviate or eliminate the problem altogether. This is a good launching pad.

Once your children see you change, it is easier for them to change. Then you can get cooperation and it’s easier to change them and the effects of peer pressure on all of you.

At The Results Family Advisory we’ve found 12 common problems parents create that keep them from changing their minds. We’ve never found a person who makes all 12 of these problems. But just 2 or 3 are enough to make you worry and anxious about your children and your ability to deal with them correctly.